Drop In Sessions are a great way to learn more about yourself!
I'm offering a repeating series of 5 topics for exploration and understanding:
When one of these systems operates unconsciously within you, it creates a barrier to the kind of connection you envision for yourself. Be You: With Others drop in sessions support you to recognize the particular impact of each and make room for deeper satisfaction in your work and relationships.
Looking for another window into your internal lanscape? Try a drop in session.
Drop in sessions also offer a great way to get a taste of what you can expect from a Be You: With Others Process Group. Feeling safe with the leader of an interpersonal process group is essential. I encourage you to come in and get a feel for me and an introduction to the process so you can rest assured, this work is right for you.
What can you expect from a Be You: With Others Drop In Session?
Each Session will support:
Here's info about the topics I'll be covering at each Drop In Session:
The Attachment System:
It is in our earliest "group," our family, that we learn how relationships work. The templates that supported us to thrive back then: Secure, Anxious or Avoidant are superimposed on our world today. Just a little information about them can begin to support us to sort reality from implicit echoes from the past enabling us to see more clearly, connect more richly and to feel more empowered to act in our lives.
Our Western culture is obsessed with Happiness. Emotions on the "negative" side of the spectrum such as Anger, Meloncholy, Disgust are devalued. There's a belief we must get beneath these secondary emotions or that taking a detached view on them supports well-being. Both of these arguments misunderstands the complexity of the human organism and implicit experience. We can mine wisdom from every human experience.
Complex Trauma and the Nervous System:
Fight, flight or freeze activation left unresolved in the nervous system can wreak havoc on our capacity to self-regluate. We know this "trauma" in the body can result from specific overwhelming events and be treated. Far more confusing however, is the dysregulation that results from ongoing misattunements throughout our childhoods. Complex Trauma of this sort requires a different approach to healing.
The Cortical System
Our cortex, the outer layer of and most recent addition to our animal brains has gifted us humans with the capacity to plan, evaluate, organize, and self-regulate. Some of us who found a safe haven away from chaos, neglect or manipulation in the world of our cortical minds now find ourselves imprisoned in rigid, disconnected and judgmental frameworks. A more integrated way of being in our bodies and with others is possible.
Shame and The Inner Critic:
Shame, is an embodied belief there is something wrong with us. It’s rooted in a physiological, last ditch survival strategy designed to conserve our energy in the face of unbearable circumstances. The inner critic is born of our cognitive drive to make sense of our experience. If I feel this bad, I must be bad. We can learn to recognize shame and dis-identify from its painful story.
Come, learn about the systems that keep you stuck.
Learn about their brilliance, their deeply healthful purposes.
By knowing and accepting with gentleness the fullness of our human experience, we become more whole.
It is this gently growing wholeness, which becomes the foundation for deep change.